Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. -Coco Chanel

More Than a Body

My thighs are thick,



My calves are muscular,


My feet are cute and petite.


My hair is long and flowing,


My chest is perky,


My body is curvaceous.


My smile is enduring,


My eyes are seductive,


My words grab you.


Is this what you see when you look at me?


The shape of my booty,


The thickness of my thighs,


The size of my breast,


I am so much more than just a body and a face.


I am a mother, a woman, a daughter, a sister, a friend.


I have a brain, I have intelligence, I have a degree in a field that many find intimidating


I am funny, I am emotional, I am tuff.


I am more than just something to look at, fuck or “dick down”


Don’t look at my body, look at my potential to be something great in your life.

Moving on

When a relationship ends this is something that all people are faced with.

Moving on can mean many different things to each party.

Some say that it is easier to move on if you are the person who is breaking up with the other person.

In some cases this is true. In other cases moving on is as hard for you as it is for them.

But what needs to happen for you to be able to say that you have really “moved on”?

Does this mean that you are now dating another?

Does this mean that you have thrown away all items that remind you of the other person?

Does this mean that you have absolutely no more feelings for this person?

I feel that moving on is all within the mind and the heart of the beholder.

To me moving on is when you can honestly and truly say to yourself that you no longer have feelings for the person that you separated yourself from.

If you ask a friend of mine she will say you have moved on when you are now dating another and trying to get something started with them.

Moving on is something that can be more painful than letting go.

Think about it this way, moving on is the absolute last step to the end.

Things may have ended but you can still say that you are holding on to “the chance” that something can get restarted.

Moving on means that you are giving up on any chance of reconciliation. This is one of the many reasons that moving on is so hard for some to do.

So what is needed for someone to really move on?

Can you honestly say that after spending significant time with someone that you have completely moved on?

Is moving on just something that we tell other people so that they do not speculate on what is really happening?

Can you honestly say that at one point in time that you loved someone with all that you are and then one day say that the love you had is gone?

Can you honestly really move on from what once was your whole life?

I was in a relationship with a man for 8 years of my life.

These 8 years were some of the most important of my life. Between the age of 15 and 22

He was there from sophomore year high school thru graduation, thru moving into my first place, as well as the purchase of my first car.

He was there for the first pregnancy, the first birth and made me the mother that I am.

We broke up and I do not regret it one day, but can I honestly say that I have moved on?

No, by me saying that I have moved on would be like erasing a part of my history.

Every day that I look at my son I see this man.

I remember the times that we shared the good the bad, the ugly and the beautiful.

I don’t honestly think I will ever be able to say that I have “moved on”

*Shrug*